This reflection is about a personal season of growth and discernment. It is not written in reference to any individual relationship or organisation.
After writing my last post, I was somewhat shocked that the story wasn't quite over yet.
Because apparently there was still one more decision to make to formally close the door even though the ending still didn't feel quite fair.
And seriously, that was harder than I expected.
I said I wanted peace of mind, but honestly, I didn't want to lie to myself. I didn't want to pretend that what happened was okay, or that it didn't matter. Because it did and still does.
For a while, I thought closure meant I had to agree with the outcome. That I had to make sense of it, or accept it fully, before moving on. But I'm learning that this isn't true.
Closure Doesn't Require Agreement
I arrive at a new level of comprehension that closure doesn't require agreement.
Signing off on an ending doesn't mean I approve of how things were handled. It doesn't mean I've forgotten the effort, the care, or the sacrifices that went into that chapter. It simply means I no longer want to stay connected to something that no longer aligns with who I am.
I'm not trying to erase the experience. I'm choosing not to stay stuck in it. There's a stark difference.
Stepping Away Graciously
Holding on the feeling of injustice was costing me more than letting go. Not just in time or energy, but in peace of mind.
So in the end, I chose to agree to step away without needing everything to feel resolved.
Some chapters don't end with fairness or closure in the way we hope for. They end when we decide that staying no longer serves us.
No bitterness, just self-respect.
Let me carry the lesson forward and leave the weight behind.
And that feels like the right place to end this chapter.
Here's to the Year of the Fiery Horse.
No more looking back.
Let's gallop forward! Lighter, braver, and ready for success.
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