Korean Skincare Ingredients I'm Using and Watching in 2026

From Glass Skin to Skin Longevity

If you do follow Korean skincare trends over the past decade, you've probably come across the term "glass skin" at least once. For years, the ideal seemed to be skin that was flawlessly smooth, poreless, luminous, and almost reflective.

But lately, many skincare conversations are beginning to shift away from chasing perfect skin and towards something much more practical: skin longevity. The shift is from "how do I get flawless skin?" to "how do I keep my skin healthy, resilient, and functioning well as I age?"

One Korean beauty trend report described skinimalism as creating a skincare routine that lasts over time and focuses on meeting the skin's basic needs rather than pursuing constant optimisation. As someone navigating midlife and perimenopause, I find this shift refreshing.

Skin is not just a beauty accessory. It's the largest organ in the human body. Its primary job is to protect us, regulate temperature, and serve as a barrier between our bodies and the outside world. So instead of chasing perfection, I'm becoming more interested in maintaining healthy skin for the next twenty years.

The Eight Ingredients That Have Earned a Permanent Place on My Shelf

Before talking about newer trends, it's worth recognising that some ingredients remain popular because they consistently deliver results.

The "Boring" Heroes

These are the ingredients that quietly keep my skin functioning like a healthy organ.

#1: Hyaluronic Acid (Hydration)

Hyaluronic acid is a humectant that helps attract and retain moisture in the skin. Many signs of ageing are often amplified by dehydration. Skin can look duller, feel less comfortable, and even make fine lines appear more noticeable. While HA won't stop the ageing process, it can help the skin look and feel more hydrated and plump.

#2: Centella Asiatica (Soothing & Recovery)

If there is one ingredient that appears repeatedly in my skincare collection, it's probably Centella Asiatica (cica), known for its soothing and barrier-supporting properties.

#3: Ceramides (Barrier Health)

Ceramides are naturally found in the skin and help maintain moisture while protecting against environmental stressors. Rather than focusing solely on anti-ageing ingredients, ceramides help keep my skin comfortable, resilient, and less prone to irritation.

#4: Panthenol (Hydration & Repair)

Panthenol (provitamin B5) is known for its hydrating and soothing properties, making it a useful addition for skin that occasionally feels dry, tight, or a little stressed.

In summary, hyaluronic acid, centella, ceramides, and panthenol help with hydration, barrier function, comfort, and resilience.

The "Strategic" Heroes

Once hydration and barrier health are covered, these are the ingredients I pay attention to for specific concerns such as pigmentation, brightness, and skin firmness.

#5: Niacinamide (Skin Tone & Barrier Support)

Niacinamide helps improve uneven skin tone, reduce excess oil, and soften the appearance of pigmentation. As someone dealing with mild sunspots and uneven tone, it's one of the ingredients I continue to keep in my routine.

#6: Tranexamic Acid (Pigmentation & Skin Tone)

Tranexamic acid is known for helping address concerns such as melasma, sun spots, and uneven skin tone. It focuses on supporting a more even-looking complexion without being overly aggressive – definitely one of those quietly effective ingredients that deserves more attention than it sometimes gets.

#7: Vitamin C (Brightening & Antioxidant Support)

Vitamin C remains a favourite for brightening and antioxidant protection against environmental stress.

#8: Peptides (Firmness & Elasticity)

If there is one ingredient category I'm paying more attention to in midlife, it's probably peptides. Peptides are often associated with skin firmness, elasticity, and collagen support. No cream is going to erase nasolabial folds overnight, but peptides seem to fit well with my current philosophy of supporting the skin rather than aggressively trying to fix it.

In summary, niacinamide, TXA, vitamin C, and peptides help with pigmentation, brightness, firmness, and elasticity, which I personally think is super essential for midlife skin.

A Quick Note About Retinol

If you've noticed that retinol, retinal, or bakuchiol are missing from this list, that's not because I think they're ineffective. In fact, retinoids remain some of the most studied ingredients in skincare and are often recommended for fine lines, uneven skin tone, and collagen support.

The reason they're not on my personal watchlist is much simpler: the idea of introducing a retinol product and potentially going through a "retinisation" phase has never appealed to me. Well, perhaps that's my lazy skincare side talking. 😄

For now, I'm more drawn to ingredients that fit easily into my routine and support my skin without the need to monitor for reaction. The same applies to stronger exfoliating acids and other intensive actives. My skin seems to respond better to consistency and support than frequent experimentation.

For now, though, I'm perfectly happy focusing on hydration, barrier health, pigmentation support, and ingredients that help my skin feel comfortable and resilient.

The New Generation of Korean Skincare Ingredients

What I find interesting is that many of these newer ingredients have less to do with exfoliation and correction and more to do with repair, regeneration, and skin longevity. Whether they ultimately live up to the hype remains to be seen, but they offer a fascinating glimpse into where the skincare industry appears to be heading.

#1: PDRN (Repair & Regeneration)

Originally associated with regenerative medicine and popularised through treatments like Rejuran, PDRN is now appearing in creams, serums, masks, and ampoules. While topical PDRN products may not replicate the effects of injectable treatments, I find the concept fascinating. Skincare is now evolving towards supporting skin repair and regeneration rather than simply exfoliating or brightening.

#2: EGF (Repair & Regeneration)

EGF (Epidermal Growth Factor) is naturally involved in skin repair and regeneration. While EGF is not a new ingredient, it has become increasingly relevant as skincare trends move towards longevity, recovery, and skin resilience. The idea of supporting the skin's natural renewal processes rather than constantly trying to "fix" it feels aligned with where skincare appears to be heading.

#3: NAD+ & NMN (Longevity)

Of all the emerging skincare ingredients, NAD+ and NMN may be the most futuristic. The science is certainly intriguing. They're closely linked to longevity research and cellular energy, and many Korean skincare brands are beginning to incorporate them into serums and creams.

#4: Ectoin (Resilience)

Ectoin is often described as a stress-protection molecule that helps skin defend itself against environmental stressors such as pollution, UV exposure, temperature fluctuations, and dehydration. As someone whose skin has become more reactive and unpredictable with age, barrier-supporting ingredients are becoming increasingly appealing.

#5: Exosomes (Cellular Repair)

Exosomes are generating significant excitement within the skincare industry. They are often discussed as communication molecules that help cells send repair signals to one another. The science is intriguing, but I also think this is an area where it's worth maintaining healthy scepticism until more evidence becomes available. For now, exosomes remain firmly in my "interesting but still researching" category.

#6: Spicules (Microneedle-Like Effect)

Spicules are another trend gaining popularity in Korean skincare. Derived from marine sponges, these microscopic structures create a sensation similar to very mild microneedling and are designed to enhance ingredient absorption. However, as someone whose skin seems to appreciate gentleness more with each passing year, I might not want to try this ingredient.

Conclusion

It really looks like skincare trends will continue to evolve; new ingredients will emerge; and new technologies will be marketed as revolutionary. And I will probably continue reading about them because I genuinely enjoy learning.

At the end of the day, my goal is healthy, resilient skin that can tolerate weather, hormones, stress, ageing, and life. And if it happens to come with a few wrinkles, some pigmentation, and the occasional hormonal breakout along the way, I think I'm okay with that.

While I enjoy falling down skincare ingredient rabbit holes, my actual routine is surprisingly simple. If you're curious about the products I currently use, you can read more about my midlife skincare routine here.

Next up, I'll be sharing my latest sunscreen favourites in a follow-up post.

Disclaimer

This article is based on my personal experiences, observations, and research as a skincare enthusiast navigating midlife skin.

The information shared here is intended for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Skincare needs can vary significantly from person to person depending on skin type, medical history, underlying conditions, and individual sensitivities.

If you have specific skin concerns, persistent skin conditions, or are considering professional treatments, please consult a dermatologist or aesthetic specialist for personalised advice and recommendations.

I'm not a dermatologist, aesthetic doctor, or skincare professional. I'm simply a curious lifelong learner who enjoys reading about skincare and occasionally falling down ingredient rabbit holes. 😄

References

9 Ingredients in Korean Skincare That May Help Reduce Visible Signs of Aging

The Biggest Skincare Trends of 2026 Have Us Going Back to Basics

7 K-Beauty Trends Shaping 2026

K-Beauty Trending Ingredients & Formulas 2026

Korean skincare 2026 – The trends & routines we believe in

From PDRN to Peptides, These 10 K-Beauty Ingredients Are Defining 2026 Skincare

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Surprisingly Simple Midlife Skincare Routine That Works for Me

My Simple & Mature Skin-Friendly Skincare Routine That Works

I have a confession. I don't follow a strict skincare routine. I don't use serum every day, and I definitely don't stick to a fixed number of steps.

And yet… my skin has been behaving better than it has in a long time.

Somewhere along the way, I realised my skin in midlife prefers simplicity over costly procedures or products. So this is my honest and admittedly somewhat lazy skincare routine and why it somehow works.

What Is a "Lazy" Skincare Routine?

In my argument, a "lazy" skincare routine doesn't mean neglecting your skin. It simply means:

1) focusing on a few essential steps

2) skipping unnecessary layers

3) choosing products that do more than one job

4) making skincare sustainable enough to maintain long-term.

At this point, skincare is more about keeping my skin comfortable, stable, and healthy-looking without exhausting myself in the process. Especially because midlife skin behaves differently because what worked in my 30s no longer works the same way now.

My Simple Morning Skincare Routine (AM)

Let me not pretend I'm extremely disciplined. On most mornings, I keep things minimal.

From left to right:

1) Cleanser: AXIS-Y Quinoa One Step Balanced Gel Cleanser

2) Toner: Pyunkang Yul Ultimate Calming Solution Toner

3) Moisturiser: Rejuran Turnover Cream Enhanced

4) Barrier cream: Centellian24 Madeca Cream Time Reverse

5) Sunscreen: BIOHEAL BOH Probioderm Collagen Tone-Up Sun Cream

On a side note, I want to mention that I really love Korean sunscreens. I've been testing quite a few lately (I clearly have a soft spot for Korean sunscreens 😄), which I'll share in a separate post.

In the meantime, you can check out some of the sunscreens I've used and recommended over the past years here and here.

Before heading out to work, I also use cushion foundation with SPF (this acts as the foundation for my light makeup look).

Only recently did I realise this probably explains why my pigmentation has remained relatively manageable over the years. I learnt that the combination of broad-spectrum sunscreen (this links to my collection of blog posts about sunscreen) followed by SPF foundation on top unintentionally created an extra layer of daily sun protection.

This simple skincare routine works because it focuses on the two things my skin consistently needs, i.e., hydration and barrier protection without overwhelming my skin with too many steps.

My Night Skincare Routine (PM)

At night, I don't follow a fixed routine. I rotate products depending on how my skin feels that day.

Some nights my skin may feel dry or tired. Some nights it feels perfectly fine and just needs moisturiser. So instead of forcing a rigid multi-step routine every single night, I adjust accordingly.

From left to right:

1) Oil cleanser for double cleansing: K-Secret Seoul 1988 Cleansing Oil: Pine Cica 1% + Probiotics

2) Second cleanser: K-Secret Seoul 1988 Cleansing Foam: Pine Cica 1% + Probiotics

3) Toner: Eqqualberry Swimming Pool Daily Facial Toner

4) Moisturiser / barrier cream: Rejuran Turnover Active Cream

I realised my skin responds better to consistency in the basics rather than aggressive over-treatment.

Other Products I Use (When I Feel Like It)

I do use other products, but not daily.

From left to right:

1) Overnight mask: Sulwhasoo Overnight Vitalising Mask

2) Face mist/spray serum: d'Alba Piedmont White Truffle First Spray Serum

3) Eye cream: Sulwhasoo Concentrated Ginseng Rejuvenating Eye Cream

4) Serum: Sulwhasoo Concentrated Ginseng Rejuvenating Serum

5) Additional cream: K-Secret Seoul 1988 Capsule Cream (Niacinamide 5% + Yuja) – gentle to help with dullness and mild pigmentation without jumping straight into stronger actives. The combination of niacinamide and yuja makes it feel like a nice middle ground between skincare maintenance and brightening care.

For products 1) to 5) above, I treat them as one of those products I reach for when my skin looks meh, tired, uneven, or like it needs a little extra encouragement. This probably sums up my entire skincare philosophy these days: simple, flexible, and sustainable.

This flexibility probably helps my skin more because my skin barrier stays calmer when it isn't overloaded with too many active ingredients all the time.

Why This Routine Works Better for My Midlife Skin

After trying more structured routines in the past, I realised my skin prefers simplicity.

Here's why this approach works and what I realised:

1. Fewer products reduce irritation.

The more products I pile onto my skin, the more unpredictable it becomes. Keeping things simple actually helps keep my skin barrier stable.

2. A good moisturiser does most of the heavy lifting.

A good barrier-repair cream helps maintain hydration, reduce sensitivity, support skin recovery, and keep my skin feeling comfortable. So instead of constantly adding more products, I mostly focus on maintaining skin stability.

3. Consistent sun protection matters more than aggressive correction.

I used to think skincare was mostly about fixing problems. Now I think prevention matters more. Using sunscreen daily has probably done more for my skin long-term than expensive routines.

4. Sustainable skincare is more realistic than perfection.

I believe in midlife, skincare routines need to be realistic enough to maintain consistently. Exhausting yourself trying to maintain a perfect routine every night is probably not very sustainable.

The Only Skincare Steps I Consistently Prioritise

If there are only two skincare steps I truly try not to skip, it's these: moisturiser at night and sunscreen in the morning. Everything else can be flexible, and strangely enough, my skin seems happier this way.

Our Skin Does Not Need to Look Filtered to Be Healthy

I recently came across a TED Talk by Jen Gunter, "5 Skin Health Myths to Stop Believing Now", where she reminded viewers that skin is actually the largest organ in the human body. That perspective genuinely shifted how I view my skin.

Real organs are not supposed to look permanently poreless, glassy, airbrushed, and flawless all the time. In this sense, poreless and zero wrinkles are unrealistic.

At this stage of life, having healthy skin that does its job well, feels comfortable, is hydrated, is resilient, and can tolerate weather, stress, hormones, ageing, and life is more realistic and sustainable than chasing perfection.

Final Thoughts

So my skin isn't perfect, my skincare routine isn't perfect, and it definitely isn't Instagram-worthy. But it works for me, and maybe that's the point.

If your current skincare routine feels overwhelming, exhausting, or impossible to maintain consistently, it might actually help to simplify it. Especially in midlife, doing less (but doing it well consistently) is what your skin actually needs. It just needs to be right for you, most of the time.

Anyway, of course, no skincare rabbit hole is ever truly complete. 😄 In follow-up posts, I'm sharing the skincare ingredients I keep coming back to, as well as some of the newer Korean skincare ingredient trends that have caught my attention, and of course, my latest haul of Korean sunscreens. Stay tuned! 😍

Disclaimer

I'm not a dermatologist, aesthetic doctor, or skincare professional. This article is based on my personal experiences, observations, and research as a skincare enthusiast navigating midlife skin.

The information shared here is intended for general educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice. Skincare needs can vary significantly from person to person depending on skin type, medical history, underlying conditions, and individual sensitivities.

If you have specific skin concerns, persistent skin conditions, or are considering professional treatments, I encourage you to consult a qualified dermatologist or aesthetic doctor for personalised advice and recommendations.

I'm simply a curious lifelong learner who enjoys reading about skincare and occasionally falling down skincare rabbit holes. 😄

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Why My Dreams Became Medical Dramas

Note: This blog post is written after recounting a series of vivid hospital-themed dreams that stayed with me long after waking up. My AI assistant later helped me explore the strange intersection between healthcare, identity, midlife transitions, and the subconscious. What emerged was unexpectedly thoughtful.

The Strange Psychology of Dreaming About Hospitals

Recently, I had two unusually vivid dreams.

In one dream, I saw my own obituary, except the face on the obituary wasn't mine. Somehow, I was supposed to have died as a terminal patient, but I had apparently "skipped" the obituary and was still alive, travelling, and moving through life.

At one point, I saw a hospital administration placard that mentioned a patient code being recalled because the patient was "no longer in danger". Then someone casually asked me how I was coping because I had "coded twice".

A few weeks later, I had another vivid hospital-related dream. This time, what began as a period somehow became a miscarriage (blood everywhere)! I was in a hospital again, while a specialist looked visibly perplexed, trying to figure out what was wrong.

I now think somewhere between these two dreams, my subconscious has fully absorbed the healthcare ecosystem.

When Your Subconscious Starts Speaking in Medical Language

I have spent years orbiting around healthcare environments, not as a clinician but close enough to absorb their rhythms, language, systems, and emotional atmosphere.

Think hospital corridors, medical terminology, patient journeys, specialist consultations, disease awareness campaigns, and conversations about survival, prevention, treatment, uncertainty, and recovery.

Over time, healthcare stopped feeling like merely an industry I worked around. It became one of the ecosystems through which I understand human life itself.

And perhaps that is why my subconscious now processes emotional transition using hospital logic. This truly feels deeply symbolic and hilariously bureaucratic. LOL.

The Hospital as a Psychological Space

The more I reflected on these dreams, the more I realised hospitals carry symbolic meaning far beyond illness.

Hospitals are transitional spaces. People enter them suspended between "before" and "after". Between uncertainty and diagnosis, sickness and recovery, fear and relief.

Perhaps that is why hospitals appear so frequently in emotionally significant dreams. It's not necessarily because we are afraid of death but because hospitals represent moments where human beings are forced to confront vulnerability and survival beyond our control.

And maybe that is also why neither of my dreams actually felt frightening. Both dreams ended with continuity, i.e., the patient survived, the code was recalled; life continued, and people were checking if I was okay.

So, my dreams were not about endings. They were about recovery.

Midlife Changes the Way You Think About the Body

Perhaps midlife changes the symbolic role the body plays in our subconscious.

As younger adults, many of us unconsciously assume the body will simply cooperate forever.

Then one day, as you age, you start to notice the hormonal shifts, fatigue, the need for health screenings, preventive healthcare, specialists' consultations, and the growing awareness that health is not guaranteed.

Perhaps my dreams are simply reflecting that transition and a growing awareness of the body as something that requires care, interpretation, maintenance, and attention.

Maybe This Is Also What Healing Looks Like

What fascinated me most was not the medical imagery itself, but the emotional tone.

In the dreams, I was calm and almost nostalgic, as though my subconscious was not warning me about something but quietly processing a difficult season I had already survived.

I still do not know exactly what these dreams "mean". Maybe dreams are less prophetic than reflective. Or maybe they simply borrow the emotional vocabulary of the worlds we spend the most time inhabiting.

And perhaps after years spent around hospitals, specialists, patient stories, disease education, and healthcare systems, my subconscious has decided this is now the language it understands best.

Which honestly explains a lot. 😭

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Apparently You Can Floss Religiously and STILL End Up at the Dentist 😭

I Need to Defend Myself First

I need to clear something up first. I'm not one of those people who only floss right before dental appointments.

I actually brush and floss twice a day religiously and consistently: in the morning and at night, with the kind of commitment, discipline, and optimism of someone who thought she was doing reasonably okay. 😄

And yet… I ended up at the dentist this week because I've been having gum pain on the lower right side of my jaw for about one week.

So I finally went to see Dr Priyanka at Pantai Hospital Kuala Lumpur. She took one look and basically confirmed, "Yes, the gum is infected."

And there was even pus coming out from one side.

Alamak. This is exactly the kind of sentence you want to hear while lying under bright dental lights. 😭

The Annoying Reality of Teeth Crowding and Periodontitis

For context, I already knew I have periodontitis (gum disease). I also have teeth crowding, which means certain areas are harder to clean no matter how disciplined you are.

So despite regular brushing and flossing, bacteria can still accumulate deep around crowded areas and gum pockets.

Adult life is really humbling sometimes. And yes, dental treatments are usually excluded from insurance claims, which makes the whole experience even more annoying.

Oral health maintenance is one of those things that quietly becomes expensive over time. I've actually written before about my frustrations with how costly healthcare is becoming; you can read more about it in this blog post.

Okay, back to periodontitis. Look, periodontitis is not one of those "buy better toothbrushes and toothpastes, and magically everything disappears" situations.

It's more of an ongoing management thing, which could include damage control, you know, trying to keep bad oral bacteria from turning your gums into a war zone.

After cleaning the infected gum, Dr Priyanka also sent me to the imaging department to do an OPG (orthopantomogram) x-ray so that she could evaluate the condition beneath the gums and around the bone support more thoroughly.

So at the next appointment, the treatment plan for my periodontitis will be based on what she sees from the X-ray findings, which honestly makes me feel both reassured… and slightly nervous. 😭

Apparently my adulthood is just going from "Yay, no cavities" to "Let's evaluate the bone support around your teeth for a no-extraction plan."

Character development indeed. 😄

I Came Home with Antibiotics and Oral Probiotics

After the X-ray, I came home with antibiotics to clear the infection and BioGaia Prodentis Lozenges.

Now THIS caught my attention. Because I've always associated probiotics with gut health. You know… yoghurt drinks and digestive health commercials.

But oral probiotics?

So today I learnt that our mouth has its own microbiome too, which means our mouth is basically an entire ecosystem – a tiny bacterial civilisation with good residents and problematic residents.

The oral probiotic lozenges are meant to support healthier bacterial balance in the mouth. The strain inside this one is Lactobacillus reuteri, which has been studied in relation to gum health and oral inflammation.

So now every morning for the next five days, I will be taking the antibiotics. Then, every night for the next 30 days, I will be taking one lozenge in my mouth while reflecting on how adulthood slowly turns all of us into people with highly specific wellness routines. 😄

Did You Know That Oral Health Would Become This Technical?

Honestly, if you told my younger self that one day I would care deeply about:

- gum pockets

- gum infection

- oral microbiome balance

- probiotic strains

…I would not have believed you.

The funny thing is: when people talk about health maintenance, we usually think about exercise, skincare, hormones, supplements, sleep…

But oral health quietly sits there like, "Excuse me. I, too, can become expensive if ignored."

And to be fair to me, I wasn't completely ignoring it. That's the frustrating part.

Fun Facts I Learnt From This Dental Episode

- Sometimes even when you are trying your best, chronic conditions still need ongoing maintenance, especially something like periodontitis.

- Teeth crowding (which can be genetic, thank you very much) can make cleaning difficult even with good habits of consistent brushing and flossing.

- Gum infections can still happen despite consistent oral care.

- Oral probiotics are apparently a real thing now.

And perhaps most importantly:

Adulting is just progressively collecting more specialised healthcare products over time. 😄

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Tiny Things That Made Up My Mother’s Day 2026

A Single Carnation Wrapped Like a Tiny Present

Here's my series of small things across the day that somehow came together and quietly became Mother's Day 2026.

I'm beginning to appreciate these kinds of celebrations more as I grow older – soft, sporadic moments that make me pause and think, "This is nice. I want to remember this."

The first thing that marked the days to be remembered as Mother's Day was this simple white carnation. Just one flower wrapped carefully with a ribbon, given free by a restaurant where we went for dinner after Mother's Day Mass..

There is something about single flowers that feels very gentle to me now. Maybe age changes the way we see things. Maybe midlife softens you in unexpected ways.

At this point in life, I think I value thoughtfulness more than grandness.

Apparently Russian Desserts Are Part of My Personality Now

I genuinely did not expect "Russian desserts" to become a 'category' for Mother's Day 2026, but here we are!

The Raspberry Pistachio Medovik (Russian layered honey cake) was rich without being overwhelming, layered with cream and raspberry sauce/jam that somehow tasted both indulgent and comforting.

The Oreshki are one-bite walnut-shaped cookies filled with dulce de leche goodness – the kind of dessert that feels old-world in the best possible way.

I think part of growing older is allowing yourself to enjoy oddly specific things without needing to explain them to anyone.

You know, just a simple "Yes, let's have Russian honey cake on Mother’s Day."

By the way, you can get these Russian desserts at Torte by Linda at Bandar Kinrara 5A, Puchong.

Someone Took the Effort to Make a Heart-Shaped Egg

Honestly, this may be one of my favourite photos! Because a heart-shaped egg is such a tiny, unnecessary detail, which is exactly why it feels meaningful.

It was Mother's Day eve, and the chef at Buttermilk Daddy Cafe intentionally shaped an egg into a heart simply because they wanted the meal to feel a little happier, I guess.

And somehow it is these tiny things that stay with you longer than grand gestures do.

Tanghulu and Midlife Contradictions

At this stage of life, my reality is basically this: Taking magnesium glycinate for better sleep at night while deciding to eat sugar-coated (hello inflammation!) dessert the next day. Haha.

The tanghulu looked ridiculously pretty lined up together: grapes, hawthorns, yoghurt-filled strawberries, mandarins, and blueberries. All with glossy sugar shells catching the light.

Anyway, I think adulthood can become so heavy sometimes that small playful things start feeling important again.

In fact, sometimes shiny sugar-coated fruits on sticks are enough.

Coffee and Cake Might Be One of My Love Languages

There was also coffee. And cake. A delightful combination that has followed me through: work stress, deadlines, motherhood, burnout, healing phases, existential crises. LOL!

At this point, coffee shops feel less like "trendy places" and more like tiny pause buttons in life.

These days, I'm learning that moments of rest with coffee and cake are probably what keep us human in the first place.

Mother's Day Mass Cake Offertory

This year, I had the opportunity to sponsor a cake for the offertory during Mother's Day mass.

What I remembered most, though, was not the cake itself. It was the sudden transition from the calmness and orderliness of mass... to the slightly chaotic cake distribution session afterwards.

The delicious cake with soft buttercream started melting quite quickly, so serving the cake became slightly chaotic.

At one point, the first layer of the cake literally slid off the second layer, resulting in buttercream messiness everywhere. Naturally, serving time became much slower while the queue behind kept getting longer and longer...

It was one of those unintentionally funny moments where everyone was trying their best to stay calm while I was quietly panicking over a collapsing cake. At least I think that's what happened. Haha!

I guess that's also what I like about church events sometimes. Beneath all the formalities, there is still warmth, familiarity, and people simply enjoying small moments together.

And somehow, celebrating Mother's Day with sloppy cake after mass felt very wholesome in a simple way.

Maybe This Is What I Appreciate More Nowadays

A single carnation.
Russian desserts.
A heart-shaped egg.
Tanghulu.
Coffee and cake.
Church cake after mass.

Nothing particularly grand. But all together, they somehow made the days feel memorable in a very "real life" kind of way.

And maybe that is what I want to remember about Mother's Day 2026 after all.

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Why I Finally Feel Better (And My Brain Is No Longer in the Longkang 😄)

What Changed?

In my previous post, I shared how speaking with a menopause specialist helped me make sense of what I was experiencing.

It has been six weeks since that consultation session. I realise I have been feeling better: my sleep has improved, my mind feels clearer, and most noticeably, the "brain in the longkang" feeling that I experienced before is no longer so obvious.

It came from a few things working together (as prescribed by my menopause specialist doctor).

1) Supporting hormonal balance (Oestrogel* gel in the morning daily)

2) Improving sleep quality (200 mg magnesium glycinate every night)

3) Correcting underlying deficiencies (25,000 IU vitamin D3 once a week)

*Note: I already have a Mirena IUD (which provides a progesterone-like hormone (levonorgestrel)) to protect my uterine lining, so additional oral progesterone is not required.

Why Sleep Made Such a Big Difference

When my doctor said that my improvement was likely due to better sleep, it made sense. When sleep improves, other areas tend to improve as well. My thinking becomes clearer, my mood becomes more stable, my energy levels improve, and my cravings for sweet things reduce.

Sleep allows the body to recover and function more efficiently.

A More Stable Version of Me

What I am experiencing now does not feel like a temporary boost. It feels like a return to a more stable state. I feel less foggy, less reactive, and more consistent throughout the day.

What I'm Focusing on Next

Following my recent consultation at the 6th-week mark, I now have a clearer idea of what else to work on next on top of the treatment modalities mentioned above.

These are not drastic changes, but practical adjustments that I can build into my daily routine over time.

First, I'm working on adjusting my sleep schedule. The goal is to be asleep before 11:30 pm so that I can wake up around 8:00 am more consistently. Since better sleep has already made a noticeable difference, maintaining a regular sleep rhythm is a priority.

Second, I'm starting to build a morning exercise habit. The focus is not intensity, but consistency. Even a short session in the morning is enough to begin with. The aim is to make movement a regular part of my routine before work.

Third, I'll be scheduling a blood test (at the 16th week) to review my vitamin D3 levels (last I checked, I was in the deficiency band) and check my thyroid function. This is to ensure that there are no other underlying factors affecting my energy, mood, or overall well-being.

These steps feel manageable and realistic. More importantly, they feel aligned with where I am right now.

A Work in Progress

I may not have everything figured out. However, I am learning that this stage of life is not about doing more or pushing harder. It is about understanding my body better and responding in a more intentional way.

I will see how these changes work over the next few weeks and share an update.

My #PerimenopauseAndMenopause Series

If you're new to this series, here's what you can find out more:

Part 1: I Haven't Quite Felt Like Myself

Part 2: Breaking Down or Waking Up

Part 3: When Burnout Isn't Burnout

Part 4: A Visit That Made Me Feel Seen and Understood

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I Only Feel Like Writing When I'm Falling Apart. Here's What That Taught Me.

Note: Some of these thoughts began as late-night rants, which I later unpacked with the help of my AI assistant. What you are reading is still deeply personal, just more clearly expressed.

The Versions of Me

There is a version of me that only shows up when I am not okay.

She appears, usually a few days to one week before my period.

She could be dramatic, and in a kind of heavy, inward pull I have soon come to recognise.

I call it my "valley of darkness".

During this phase, everything feels... louder.

Not externally, but internally. My thoughts are sharper, my emotions closer to the surface, and my tolerance for things that I deem as nonsense becomes very low.

And interestingly, this is also when I have the most to say.

Ideas come rapidly.

Connections form effortlessly.

Thoughts that I normally brush aside suddenly feel urgent, important, and worth unpacking.

This is when I rant.

And more often than not, those rants turn into blog posts.

Then, just as suddenly, it all disappears.

When the Shift Happens

The moment my period comes, something shifts.

The emotional intensity softens.

The urgency fades.

The thoughts that once felt so compelling now seem… distant.

And with that, the ideas vanish.

Not reduced. Not dulled.

Vanished.

For the past one and a half weeks, especially after returning from my Macau family trip (which I am struggling to blog about), I have been sitting in this strange calm quietness.

No strong opinions.

No pressing thoughts.

No stories demanding to be written.

Just… stillness.

At first, I thought this meant I was blocked.

But what if it is not a block?

What if it is simply a shift in state?

Comparing the Two States

I am beginning to realise that my writing does not come from discipline alone.

It comes from emotional signals.

The Messier Side

When I am in that darker phase, my mind is actively processing:

frustrations

observations

unresolved questions

quiet tensions I do not usually confront

It is messy, but it is also honest.

And honesty, especially the uncomfortable kind, is incredibly fertile ground for writing.

The Calmer Side

But once my hormones stabilise, my system does something else.

It regulates. It calms. It restores balance.

And in doing so, it removes the very tension that fuels my writing.

Redefining My Own Expectations

Perhaps the problem was never creativity.

The problem was expectation.

I expected myself to:

generate ideas when I feel stable

create from a place that is naturally quieter

produce “insight” without emotional friction

But that is not how I seem to be wired.

I am not a constant-output writer.

I am a signal-driven one.

I write when something feels off.

I write when something needs to be understood.

I write when there is a question I cannot ignore.

And when those signals are not present, my mind rests.

Maybe This is Not A Weakness

For a while, I wondered if this pattern meant something was wrong with me.

Why can I only write when I feel low?

Why can I not produce consistently like others do?

But now I see it differently.

There are two versions of me at play:

One that feels deeply and generates meaning

One that organises, refines, and moves forward

Neither is better.

They simply serve different purposes.

The issue was that I kept asking the second version to do the first version's job.

What I Am Learning to Do Differently

Instead of fighting this rhythm, I am starting to work with it.

When I am in the "valley":

I capture everything

I do not filter

I let the thoughts be messy and incomplete

When I come out of it:

I revisit what was written

I shape it

I give it structure and clarity

In other words, I am learning that I do not need to create and refine at the same time.

A Quiet Realisation

Right now, I may not have new ideas.

But that does not mean I have nothing to say.

It may simply mean that the part of me that feels the need to say it is resting.

And perhaps that is just as important.

Maybe the goal is not to force consistency but to understand the rhythm and trust that when the noise returns, so will the words.

If you have ever noticed your thoughts becoming clearer in your most emotional moments, you are not alone. Perhaps there is something there worth listening to.

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I Tried to Stay Healthy. Here’s Why It Still Feels Financially Punishing.

Staying Healthy Is Expensive. So Why Does the System Still Reward Illness?

Let me start by saying this is not a perspective from an insurance agent, financial planner, or healthcare provider. This is purely a reflection from someone living within the system, paying for it and trying to make sense of it.

Because in my opinion, the reality looks like this, even if you don't fully agree with me:

Health screening? Expensive.

Healthy food? Expensive.

Gym memberships / personal training? Expensive.

Health supplements? Expensive.

Insurance premiums? Increasing year on year.

And yet, when it comes to actually using insurance, many of the things that help us stay healthy aren't claimable at all.

When Prevention Becomes Personal

This realisation became even more apparent as I started paying closer attention to my own health, particularly in this phase of life.

Perimenopause is not a disease, but it is a transition that affects energy, sleep, mood, metabolism, and overall wellbeing.

Managing it often involves regular monitoring, follow-up consultations with specialist doctors, hormonal support, and lifestyle adjustments. None of which are typically considered "claimable".

So here lies the disconnect: you are not sick, but you are also not entirely "fine". And the system, as it stands, does not quite know what to do with that in-between space.

The System Isn't Designed for Prevention

Most insurance systems are built around a very specific idea: you can only claim after something has gone wrong, which means you can claim when you are diagnosed with a disease, when treatment becomes necessary, and when treatment costs become significant.

Which also means you cannot claim when you are trying to detect problems early, manage long-term health proactively, or reduce future risks.

In other words, the system is designed for intervention, not prevention, and this creates a strange paradox.

The Prevention Paradox

From a logical standpoint, prevention makes sense. Like this: early detection → simpler treatment → lower cost → fewer large claims

So in theory, encouraging preventive care should benefit both individuals and insurers. But in practice, preventive care sits outside the system.

Why? Because preventive care requires upfront spending, doesn't guarantee immediate outcomes, and is harder to standardise across populations. Whereas treatment is clearly defined, measurable, and easier to price and insure.

So instead of a system that rewards staying well, we end up with one that primarily responds to illness.

The Real Cost of "Staying Healthy"

What many of us are experiencing today is a shift. Health is no longer just about treating disease.

It's about maintaining metabolic health, hormonal balance, mental wellbeing, and long-term quality of life.

But maintaining all of this often comes with out-of-pocket costs. And over time, it starts to feel like, "I'm paying to stay healthy… and I'm still paying in case I get sick."

That double layer of cost is where the frustration comes from.

So What Can We Do Within the Limits of the System?

Well, the system won't change overnight, but I guess how we respond to it can. Instead of viewing this as an either-or situation, i.e., "insurance or prevention", it's more helpful to see them as two separate roles.

Insurance as Protection, Not Everyday Use

Insurance should be best understood as protection against catastrophic events, i.e., the unexpected, high-cost situations that we cannot plan for. It's not designed to cover routine health maintenance.

Prevention as Personal Investment

Preventive care, which includes health screenings, supplements, and gym sessions, becomes a form of long-term investment in quality of life, especially in life stages like perimenopause, where the goal is not just to treat illness but to maintain stability and function.

Be Selective, Not Exhaustive

Not every supplement, test, or trend is necessary. Focusing on evidence-based screenings, essential lifestyle habits, and medically guided interventions can help reduce unnecessary spending.

Create a "Health Fund" Mindset

Instead of reacting to costs, I read that some people allocate a specific budget for health maintenance, treating it as a planned expense rather than a recurring frustration.

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A System That Hasn't Caught Up (Yet)

Healthcare systems around the world are slowly shifting toward prevention. But change takes time.

In the meantime, some of us are navigating this in-between space. We are more aware of our health than ever before but still operating within systems designed for a different era.

The reality is, taking care of our health today requires both protection for the unexpected

and intentional investment in the everyday.

This is not a conclusion from the industry. It is a perspective from someone living within it.

It may not feel fair. But it is, for now, the reality we work within. And perhaps the real shift is this: not waiting for the system to reward prevention, but choosing it anyway.

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