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10 Things I Believe in Finding Love & Falling in Love

Our life is an open book full of pages, narrating different stories in each phase of our life - the day we were born, the first word we spoke, the first day at school, the first friend we made... Each chapter defines who we really are. Don't you think so?

We laugh. We cry. We fall. We stand up. We fail. We succeed.

We find love. We fall in love.


I've been drafting and re-drafting this post. I want it to be an original recollection of my own past experiences on this subject matter plus what I've gained from all those around me - real-life friends, acquaintances, and even online friends.

Disclaimer: What you're about to read are solely and pur
ely my point of views. Do read with your own discretion. :)

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10 Things I Believe in Finding Love & Falling in Love

I believe that:

1. By faith, the Lord will prepare the right one for me.

And that's according to His timing, way, and purpose. I've written something along this line: Where Are You, Adam? I do need to pray and have faith. Matt. 19:6 says, "So then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has yoked together, let man not separate."




2. Believers in Christ shouldn't become dissimilarly yoked with unbelievers.


I'm not against non-Chris
tians. However, this is the most crucial principle that I'm holding on to, no matter how long I'll need to wait. 2 Cor. 6:14: "Do not become dissimilarly yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership do righteousness and lawlessness have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?"


3. Age doesn't matter.

Really? Well, age doesn't matter to me if the guy is within this age range: 25-35 years old. :)



4. I must have my own set of rules/principles.


The trend of the world is going downwards. I must flee from it! 2 Tim. 2:22: "But flee youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart."


5. I mustn't fall for a guy who's taken.

This is applicable to married guys and guys with girlfriends. No matter how valuable a guy is, it's seriously unethical to "grab" him from his girl.
I'm glad I'm holding on to this principle till today.





6. I don't need
to make someone a priority if that someone makes me an option.

I've been through a few times of "being an option". Indeed, those were experiences worth to learn to avoid being hurt again and again. :) Once bitten, twice shy.

I treat people with sincerity. However, this is something that I need to control. From what I've gone through these years, being overly sincere is not profitable at all. Nevertheless, being a hypocrite is my final resort, especially if it's needed to maintain an amicable and diplomatic interaction.

The general principle is: If I don't like a person, I'd be avoiding him/her at all cost. So, if I don't avoid you, be at peace. :)


7. A relationship has to have love.

Love is the essence tha
t cultivates efforts of making a relationship work. Keeping a relationship requires genuine efforts of both parties. This is the sweetest thing to do.




8. I shouldn't start a relationship
for the wrong reasons.

Never attempt to enter into a relationship due to loneliness, on the rebound, getting ba
ck at ex, man-dependency, etc. That's why I'm still single. It's just not the time yet. I believe, if God has prepared Adam, he'll somehow materialize before my eyes before I know it. :D


9. I shouldn't be impatient or desperate of getting into a relationship.


Don't jump into a relationship impatiently based on superficial things such as wealth, good looks, etc, no matter how realistic and tangible these things are. If I'm desperate at all, I believe I'll end up being with someone I don't love.


10. I love when I'm ready, not when I'm lonely; I love because it's a luxury, not because it's an excuse.

There's always a fine line between the two opposites. When it comes, it comes. If it is, it is. There just can't be any rush.

4 comments

  1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5dzvE7YMpA&feature=PlayList&p=3E6DD300A2A0D321&index=0

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  2. Oh, the video is called The Vicar of Dibley. Hmmm... First time heard abt it though.

    The Vicar of Dibley

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  3. Yeah have a friend of mine a few months younger than u going thru the same sitn as u. She's a sister in the Lord
    I just talked to her last weekend.
    So after my talk w/her I saw that funny video and ur blog where u addressed issues that we talked abt. I found it worthwhile sharing them w/her and I tht I'd share the video w/u...did u find it funny..It had me in peals of laughter.
    I love Dawn French comedy!

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  4. I haven't watched through the video yet. Will do so later when I'm at home. ;)

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