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It's all about communication

I've a new understanding about communication, the lifeline of our interaction with other human beings on this earth, at least with those around us - teammates, colleagues, siblings, friends, acquaintances, etc. We can't avoid human interaction, be they positive or negative, unless if you decide to become a hermit and reside in one of those forest reserves, which is rather unlikely. :)

With courtesy of Naoko, I was given a piece of paper with this title imprinted on it: THE NON VIOLENT COMMUNICATION PROCESS. At first, I hesitated. Non violent? Sort of implicating that I'm violent. Anyway, why not give it a read? My inner self urged me to read it. I'm glad I read.

I Google-d it as well and found this: Nonviolent Communication is... developed by Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg. I like what he said, "Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs."

I learn a few things:

1. Observe:
* What is actually happening in a situation? What are people saying or doing?
* Is our life enriched or not by their speech and deeds?
* The concrete actions we are observing that are affecting our well-being.

2. Feel:
* State how we feel after our observation.
* How we are feeling in relation to what we are observing.

3. Need:
* Indicate what we need from the feelings that we've identified.
* The needs, values, desires, etc that are creating our feelings.

4. Request:
* Indicate what we are wanting from the other person that would enrich our lives or make life more wonderful for us.
* The concrete actions we request in order to enrich our lives.

For more details, read the original article. Below is an excerpt:

When we use NVC in our interactions, with ourselves, with another person, or in a group, we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. It is therefore an approach that can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations:
* intimate relationships
* families
* schools
* organizations and institutions
* therapy and counseling
* diplomatic and business negotiations
* disputes and conflicts of any nature

I'm helped. Now, it's the matter of putting them into practice.



Before every minute of action,
there should be an hour of thought.
(Henry Ford)


Until you are happy with who you are,
you will never be happy with what you have.
(Zig Ziglar)


Yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future, and today is the present.
That's why it's called a gift.


It's a sign of maturity when you can take correction to heart
and learn from it rather than becoming defensive.


One will make mistakes, get into trouble, and face failures.
Accept this and STOP demoralizing yourself with self-pity.


Success is always sweet but its impact on one's life
is not as profound as what a failure could do.


A plan without action is a dream.
Action without a plan is a nightmare.


You LOSE CONTROL when you kinda LOVE something about your situation and HATE the solutions that you're supposed to take to face it.


Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker.
Failure is a delay, not a defeat.
It is a temporary detour, not a dead end.


Whatever you want in your life, the key to YOUR success
is to TRANSFORM your thinking, emotions & behavior!


You can tell the size of your God by looking at the size of your worry list. The longer your list, the smaller your God.


Nothing is too great and nothing is too small
to commit into the hands of the Lord.


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